So apparently some people think I’m racist because I’m white and said something about people who aren’t white. So here is my response:
Here I am what? Having an opinion based on extensive observation and first-hand experiences? I never said anyone else had to agree with it. You’re basically saying that in order to be “politically correct” I have to accept and appreciate the fact that other cultures objectify women to the point that they don’t even see them as worthy human beings, and feel secure being in an intimate relationship with someone who I know was raised with such cultural (lack of) values, especially when I have first hand experience with MANY MANY men raised in these cultures (I’m an exotic dancer and you would not believe some of the shit many of these girls and I have gone through…biting, groping, requests for sexual favors, slapping, choking, beating with blunt objects, I can go on and on…, 90% of it from Indian and Chinese men. Trust me, you wouldn’t want to date them either). Ever wonder if you’re not just being reactionary and over-sensitive? Also, rudest female customers? Mexican women. Just a few nights ago a group of them YELLED at me when I was on stage that I should get off cause I’m a “pale ass skinny white bitch” and they like the “thick” girls. They didn’t tip ANYONE. Not even the thick girls they liked so much. I can just KEEEEP saying things that will push your buttons, and I will because I recently decided I don’t give a fuck about over-sensitive, overly-reactionary people’s feelings and I’m in a bitchy mood today because some disgusting Mexican guy tried to stick his hands down my underwear while I was on stage and then complained to my manager when I wouldn’t talk to him, and a nasty Indian dude came in with his wife and tried to feel me up IN FRONT OF HER. Yeah I have had rude American customers, male and female, some of them EXTREMELY rude, even violent, but the VASSSSTTTTTTT majority of them are foreigners, including some Europeans and Canadians (yes I’m talking about people FROM OTHER COUNTRIES, who move to or visit the US. And do not kid yourself, ALLLL kinds of people from every walk of life come into bikini bars and topless clubs). I am aware of the fact that there are a lot of different factors that contribute to these people’s behavior, ones they are probably not in control of. Does that mean I need to be open to dating them? Definitely not.
PEOPLE HAVE OPINIONS. GET OVER IT. The fact that I’m not afraid to say what I think about people just because they are from a certain culture/are a certain race actually makes me more forward thinking than the average american pseudo-activist, you’re just too short-sighted to see that. I have values that I live by, and one of those is that everyone should be free to make their own choices, and I choose to take every measure to not surround myself with people whose values are so vastly opposed to mine that I want to punch them in the face just for existing.
If you are reading this and are offended by it, GOOD. You should be offended. Just because I am an adult entertainer does not mean I’m an object. It means I’m a god damned entertainer. GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. TREAT PEOPLE LIKE PEOPLE. THEN MAYBE SOMEONE LIKE ME WOULD EVER EVEN VAGUELY CONSIDER SPEAKING TO YOU IN AN AUTHENTICALLY FRIENDLY MANNER. BEING FOREIGN OR A MINORITY IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE AN ASSHOLE. THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR BEING AN ASSHOLE, FOR ANYONE.
And if you are reading this and thinking “omg she’s such a racist little white bitch” then think about how you would feel if I was calling you a racist little whateverthefuckraceyouareidon’tgiveashit bitch. I can’t help how I look either. At least I fucking own it. And if you’re thinking “oh you don’t understand what it’s like to be a minority/from another race” or whatever, well you’re right but YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE ME EITHER SO SHUT THE FUCK UP. Everyone has problems and everyone has feelings, no matter what color they are or wherever they are from. Everyone has their own experiences. The thorn always hurts the most when it’s in your own paw. The worst thing you have experienced may be wayyy worse than the worst thing I have experienced, but the worst thing I experienced was still horrible for me because it was the worst thing I experienced. How would you feel if people were constantly belittling your daily plights as #browngirlproblemz or whatever?
There’s been a lot of talk about suicide in my feed recently, largely due to the fact that several friends of mine to whom I’m very close have suffered a personal tragedy of that sort in the recent past. I was not a part of this tragedy, I did not know the person who ended their life and I was not a part of that experience. But I have known someone who committed suicide at an earlier point in my life and I can empathize with what they’re going through.
I want to tell that person’s story.
I don’t know if this is a good idea. But I feel like what I’m about to say is important, which is that suicide isn’t anybody’s fault. It’s not yours, it’s not the victim’s; it’s no one’s fault. The only one - the only thing to blame rather - is perhaps how our society has chosen to treat mental illness with stigma and psychiatric counseling as a character deficit. But the victim or their friends and family? In most cases they did what they could.
I feel that I am now at a point in my life where I am capable of compiling a list of characteristics that automatically make someone undateable. Here it is.
*These are my opinions, based on my experiences. If you don’t like them, that’s fine, no one said you had to agree with me.
Home-schooled After multiple horrifying experiences, I think I can say with certainty that most, if not all, people who are home-schooled are totally insane. I know there may be some really awesome people out there who were home-schooled, but I have yet to meet any of them and I don’t really feel like taking any more chances with it.
"DJs" Most “DJs” are just really into their image. Most people who are really into their image are super insecure in relationships and will pretty much fuck anyone (in other words, cheat. lots).
Frat/sorority If you need to pay for friends/drinking buddies you probably suck. If you think you are better than everyone else because you are part of some “exclusive club” that you pay to be in, you probably suck.
Anyone Who Publicly Defines Themselves as an “Artist” Nothing against art or artists. I love art, I participate in it myself. I have just found that most people who introduce themselves as “Hi my name is _________ and I’m an artist” tend to be completely self-absorbed and delusional, even if they seem very interesting and charming at first.
Indian Men The ones from India. I’m sorry, but all this crap about having to “respect other cultures” is just obviously such bullshit when the culture in question BURNS WOMEN because their family did not provide a sufficient dowry. Just because that’s the way it is doesn’t mean I have to like it, agree with it, and I DEFINITELY do not have to respect it. It is fucked up and wrong to burn anyone for that reason..let alone any other reason they burn women in India. Them “not knowing any better” or “being raised that way” is no excuse. Yes, I know not all Indian men are completely chauvinistic dickfaces, but too many of them are for me to even consider dating one of them.
Chinese Men The ones from China. They throw female infants in the garbage there. The men LITERALLY do not consider women to be people. They think women should do whatever the men in their lives tell them to do. Once again, I don’t care if whoever reads this thinks I’m being “racist” and “intolerant.” If you think that, fuck you for keeping the world from becoming a better place by defending people’s “right” to behave like complete morons based on “cultural differences.” No, I do not think everyone should be “exactly like me” and “share my values,” I just think it is WRONG to kill/abandon infants just because they are female (…I really can think of no good, realistic reason to kill/abandon an infant), and I think any other well-adjusted, decent human being would agree, including ones FROM THAT CULTURE. However, since most Chinese men are complete and total womanizers, it’s a deal-breaker.
Ravers/partiers If you are over the age of 21 and are still obsessed with raving/partying, you probably have addiction/self-control problems, and I’m not interested in being in a relationship with an alcoholic/drug-addict/someone who puts partying before our relationship.
Stupid People They piss me off and frustrate me and I don’t wanna deal with it. I do not have the patience. They also bore me.
Pope Francis has reportedly called a young gay Catholic man in France to reassure him about his sexuality. Christophe Trutino had written to the Pope to emotionally explain his inner turmoil in reconciling his sexuality with his faith, explaining how he was terrified he was going to hell for being gay, local media reported.
This new Pope is rejuvenating his tradition. It’s quite stunning.